FREEDOM..FREEDOM..

It’s amazing how one word can have a different meaning to many people. To some the word Freedom means “Being you without anyone’s permission”.

But to me Freedom isn’t doing what we want to do, it’s doing things that keeps us out of bondage, because no one can ever be truly free if they’re living in bondage.

#AreYouFree #OrAreYouBound #Freedom #NoBondage

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MS. CHELLE B.

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PETTY..PETTY..PETTY..PETTY

 

Ok how many times have you heard the phrase or phrases

“Stop being so petty”

“Oooh you’re just so petty”

“Petty is as petty does”

 Well if you’re anything like me you’ve heard an overuse of the word but also guilty of using it yourself a time or two. Since I know we as people have our own version of what every word in the “urban” dictionary means I decided to just research it for myself and here is what I found….

 1. When someone takes a small subject & blows it out of proportion

..Basically making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 2. Being deliberately nasty or rude for no reason

..Basically being childish.

Petty RKelly

 Now with all that being said & reading the meaning of the word I want to say this, it’s bad enough that so grown women are going around being all petty, especially on social media but when you run across a grown man that’s doing it, it’s a major turnoff. There is nothing appealing to a grown woman about a petty man, the same way I’m sure no grown man likes a petty woman & if they do then they both have some growing up to do. If you find yourself acting out of character all because of what someone else has done or is doing then you’re really making a fool out of yourself & not even realizing you’re actually pushing that person away & not drawing them to you, being petty is the worse thing a person can do in a relationship. So while you’re sitting back thinking “Bam I got them”, what you’ve really gotten yourself is a single status.

 If you’re confused as to what I’m talking about let me explain it real quick…..

1. Don’t call me, I won’t call you {petty}

2. Won’t answer my questions in a timely fashion, I’ll ignore you {petty}

3. Won’t like my stuff, I won’t like yours {petty}

4. Your phone is locked I’ll lock mine {petty}

5. Won’t help me, I won’t help you {petty}

 Now back to what I was saying, I hate a petty female but since most females are naturally jealous of other females for no reason it’s kind of to be expected, but I truly despise a petty man/boy. You see I feel men are supposed to be strong, show strength & stand their grounds but when they resort going tit for tat then that becomes a major turnoff & will push a person away from them quicker than cheating will. Changing your actions to become petty all because you think it will draw the person to you is a sure way to get yourself 1st place in the singles line.

 But to those who choose to act petty here’s a little something from me to you….

Petty Cupcakes

CHELLE B.

Not A Badge Of Honor……….

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As always as I’m strolling through my social media timelines a post caught my attention, well this time it wasn’t so much as the post but more so the comment that was made on the post. The post was just plain and simple but that one comment that was made turned the entire thing around for me and made me start thinking.

You see NO I’m not a bad BYTCH, NO I don’t hang out or around bad BYTCHES, I’ve  never been one to like dogs therefore I see no reason to be one or have any around me at any given time.

NO I’m not his main BYTCH or even his side BYTCH, I’m his partner not his pet. I’m his helpmate not his playmate, he’s not walking me around on a leash, I have two legs and two feet not four and four.

I am a GROWN WOMAN and I hang around other GROWN WOMEN that do grown women things not women that want to sit around and refer to themselves as female dogs. See for the life of me I can’t understand why this is deemed acceptable by some when we all know that the minute a dude is pissed off with a lady and call her a BYTCH she’s ready to kill him or any other female for that matter that they feel “disrespected” them. Tell me this how can it be disrespect  if you and your so-called friends walk around calling yourselves that on a daily basis and even go as far as to put it out on social media for the entire world to see. Females often wonder why they are not shown respect or saw in a different light, well let  me help with that one: It’s how you present yourself!! What real man wants to be with a female who refers to herself as a BYTCH, what man wants a women who is posting pictures all on social media and calling herself and her “friends” BYTCHES. Understand that a real man don’t want to be with a “bad BYTCH”, he wants to be with a lady who has respect for herself, you must have self-respect before you can expect anyone else to respect you. You want to be a bad BYTCH & hang around bad BYTCHES well remember this: not all men like dogs and eventually those BYTCHES turn on each other when a male enters the “pen”.

Now I will leave you with this: What happened to the days when more females had more respect for themselves and didn’t wear the title “BYTCH” as a badge of honor, what happened to when females taught their young daughters that being a “BYTCH” is not a good thing but being a young lady is everything? Reality TV has really messed up so many females because they on there screaming about being bad BYTCHES then the mass seems to think it’s now acceptable when it’s not!!

Working Men

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I have been hearing this a lot therefore I decided to tackle this topic because to be honest it really makes no sense to me at all….

I don’t seem to understand it when women say “I cheated because he’s always at work, he works to much.”

Now don’t get me wrong I know there should be a balance between work and family but at the same time with the rising cost of everything, is there really a such thing as “working to much”? How can you say they don’t have time to take care of home when if they weren’t working then there couldn’t be a home to take care of. How can you say they work too much and that’s why you cheated when we know if they didn’t work at all or have anything to bring in you would use that as an excuse for cheating also. We know if he couldn’t help at home he would be all types of no good, good for nothing so & so and any other derogatory names you and your “friends” can come up with, you would start playing No Scrubs by TLC while you and your “friends” danced around the livingroom or the home his hard earned money is paying for. You would dance around playing music on a computer or radio that is using electricity that he is working hard to pay for. You would tell him once again “If you were taking care of home I wouldn’t of cheated”, which takes us right back to where we started how can he take care of home when there is no home to take care of.

Bottom Line: You can’t have it both ways either you want a man that will be a man and do what real men, which is work and take care of their families the best they can, or you want a boy to play house with because your son ain’t old enough to play and do the things you need or want done. Now that only leaves you with two choices, let the man work & you be faithful & stop complaining or you get your butt out there, get a job, let him sit home and you pay all the bills then tell me how tired you are at the end of the day and you get home and he wants this and that and everything else he feels he deserves by being your mate.

You don’t have to go out and cheat and use the excuse “He works to much” if you really feel that way then sit down talk to him about how you’re feeling and if you can’t come to a happy medium then maybe you need to find a man, my bad a boy that don’t want to work!

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CHELLE B.

Good Man, Bad Rap

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So as I sit here and think, a bunch of thoughts have been going through my head and this is the one I chose to write on because it’s long overdue. I want to know at what point did a “good” man become the bad thing to have and a “bad boy” was the one to be with. I have come to notice that guys who treat with women with respect; open the door for her, help her out when she needs it, willing to wait until she is ready for the next level, etc seems to get called a punk, pussy, and or wimp by other guys and some females will look at them as being weak and not man enough. Women grow up and go through life saying they want a good man but when that man comes along all of a sudden he is not what you want; why because his pants fit, he works, take care of his kids, don’t have a rap sheet, and isn’t known to put his hands on a woman. You say “He don’t have enough swag for me”, well how much of that “swag” can you take and pay your bills? What’s wrong with having a man who wants to love and take care of his lady and kids, whether they’re his or not, what’s wrong with having a man who punches a clock oppose to hitting the block? I’m just all confused and for the life of me I can’t seem to understand what the problem is. Why can’t another man look at the “good” man and say “Man you doing good taking care of your family and all”, oppose to calling him a wimp and telling him he’s a sell out because he wants to settle down with one lady and not run the streets or because you call and he tells you he’s cooking dinner for his lady and or family. I would like to know why a “bad boy” has become the one to have, someone who will go upside your head but later apologize because they want some or something, someone who has you, Tracy, Trina, Sally and a few more too. Someone that hits the block instead of the clock. I’m just really confused about the entire situation at hand. Why do good men have to catch a bad rap simple because they are doing what they are supposed to do and not what everyone else is doing. We scream and holler we want one thing but in retrospect we feen for the opposite of what we are saying we want. We look at a good man as being boring and lame, no fun at all. I mean help me out if I’m wrong, what’s so bad about being with a man who is taking care of his family and responsibilities? Why do they have to be labeled simply because they want to do what’s right, why do they have to be labeled because they want to treat a woman like a queen oppose to treating her like a bitch or a late night drive thru? You get a good man but the minute when you get into an argument you get upset because he won’t hit you back, I mean who wants to be hit on. Women scream about a good man but when a good man comes along you push him to the side because he’s not hood enough or “bad” enough. Good men catch a bad rap because they treat women how they should be treated oppose too how most of them are used to being treating, the catch a bad rap because they don’t have a main lady and a side chick, they catch a bad rap because they choose to spend time with their kids oppose to running the streets and chasing hoes. Good men catch a bad rap because they would rather talk then fuss, they would rather make love oppose to fuck, they would rather stimulate your mind oppose to your body. Good men catch a bad rap simply because they are A REAL MAN, someone who will love and not hurt, comfort and not criticize, protect not harm, provide not take away from, lift up not pull down.
So once again I say if anyone has the answer to this question please by all means share it with me.