We all have heard the saying “Actions speak louder than words” well after careful consideration and after dealing with certain things and being put in certain situations I have come to challenge this age old saying, because if a person is listening to you their actions will mimic exactly what you want at that time, so does that really mean their heart is in it.
I feel that words have more power than you care to believe they have, see to me someone can do whatever it is they have heard you say you want or need done and it not really mean much for the simple fact that they are just going through the motions of what they know you expect and therefore they are going to do what you want or need them to do in order to get what they want and or need from you. To me if I sit and talk to a person I can gauge their feelings and true intentions through their words and words have a better chance at piercing my heart than their actions. Don’t get me wrong I like to receive certain tokens of love and affection, things like “just because” flowers and cards. But to me most of the time actions are just a person going through the motions to fulfill the desire, want or need you have at the present moment or near future for their benefit of getting or obtaining something from you in the process. Understand this I can go out and buy whatever it is I think will make you happy, simply because I have sat and listened to the “words” you have spoken and since I now know that will please you I feel that if I go purchase that item I stand a better chance of getting whatever it is I want from you. See I don’t just want a person doing this and doing that because you feel it’s what I want and you’re thinking about yourself in the process. Sit and talk to me and let me look into your soul through your eyes and hear the words that you speak that way I can tell if you’re being honest and truthful with me. I don’t want to have my judgment of you cloudy by the things that you do for me, let my mind and heart be cloudy by the truth that you speak into my heart and soul. You may can go out and buy me anything I want in the world but none of that will mean a thing to me if you can’t speak the truth to me. See at the end of the day when you are getting to know someone or even after you feel you know them all you have is their word and I truly feel your word should be your bond and if you can’t take a person at their word then their actions are fruitless. Yes I know people can tell lies but understand that actions lie and speak louder than words when you find out the action was a lie. Having someone go through the motions of “pleasing” you only to get to you or something from you. When all you should have done in the beginning was sit down and have a good face to face talk with them so you could look into their eyes and truly hear their words.
So once again I have to ask this question: Do actions really speak louder than words?
In life most of the time we’ve been told that if you want something then go after it. Well some people have taken that literally and if they have their eyes set on a person they will pursue that person with hopes of winning them, but what happens when it seems like your chasing and seeking is all in vain? You see for most of us it’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; but it’s even harder to give up when you think it’s everything you’ve ever wanted. At that point what do you do, do you continue to wait or do you simply walk away and say if it’s meant to be it will be. You see the quicker we learn that not everyone will love us like we love them we may actually save ourselves a lot of heartbreak and heartache and time. It amazes me though how someone can break our heart and we can still love them with all the little broken pieces. When do you say enough is enough and give up, or do you just continue to stick around with hopes that maybe just maybe they may start to look at you like you look at them. Understand this, if a person is not willing to invest the same amount time into you that you are willing to invest into them then it may just be time to pick up and move on. Learning and knowing when to cut your loses is one of the best things you will ever learn in your life. But you won’t learn or know this until you know your own worth as a person be it male or female, we all should know our worth and never settle for the sake of not being alone. You see it’s beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind, someone that wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you’ve built up around your mind and heart and let them inside. So sometimes giving up may not be that bad if it’s going to allow the right person to come into your life. You know it’s not all about who we want, most of the time it’s about who we need!!