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GET OUT & VOTE..IT MATTERS

Published October 26, 2016 by chellebooker

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It’s no surprise that election day is 13 days away, it’s no surprise that many  are not really feeling the two presidential candidates & have said “I’m not voting, what’s the point.” Well let me help you out with that, contrary to popular belief every vote really does count & not voting is basically you silencing yourself & leaving you without the right to complain about anything for the next four years. Also you should know that it’s not just our next president you’re voting for it’s your county politicians, state legislators & other agendas that affect where you live & your kids schooling. We have 34 of the 100 U.S. Senate seats & all 435 House of Representative seats are all up for election. People need to understand that voting is an important part of our democracy that help put the people in office that we feel are right to represent us & make the necessary changes that are in our best interest for our day-to-day living.

Understand that on the morning of November 9, 2016 we will have picked our 45th president & you not voting is giving the vote to the candidate that has received the most votes in your state & it could very well be the one that you don’t want in office, but remember you didn’t vote so you have NO right to voice your discontent. You silenced yourself when you made the choice to stay home or stay at work on November 8, 2016 when you could have been out there making a difference in the world. Even if you don’t think so you should know that EVERY VOTE DOES COUNT!! Not only that, think of your constitutional right that your giving up by not voting all because you’re upset with the two choices we have running for president. Me being an African-American Female I refuse to have my voice silenced because I know so many fought & paved the way for me to have this right & I will honor them by exercising that right. Look not voting would be a monumental mistake because mounting a successful tide-turning effort against attempts to roll back 50 years of progress is not an either or proposition, it’s a must!! We cannot afford to sit home & let others make our choices for us, we cannot let them decide that women of color should make significantly less than every white man when we are doing the same amount of work, if not more. Your voice matters which means your vote matters, black voters especially black women have a pivotal role to play in moving this country forward…….. GET OUT & VOTE!!!!

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Let me leave you with a quote from the late great New York Congresswoman Shirley Chisholm “You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering & complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.”

 

CHELLE B.

Praying For Orlando….

Published June 14, 2016 by chellebooker

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I have to say I still sit here in unbelief by the senseless act of a coward who took 49 innocent lives.

I want to say my heart, tears, concerns & prayers go out to all the families & friends that lost a dear sweet love one to such hateful act. My prayers are with Orlando during such a tragic time as this.

I have sat & read so many ignorant & hateful comments from people that I saw fit to do this post. Yes I identify myself as Christian and to me that means love & not passing judgment on anyone for anything, as the saying goes “who am I to judge” my life isn’t stellar. Now with that being said I want to know how can people fix their mouths to say this happened because it was a “gay” club. Now if you truly feel that way then tell me why did the shooting in South Carolina happen, because we all know it happened at a CHURCH? See I wish people would actually sit & think before they start opening their mouths & spewing such hatred. I’m not to sure about many others but from my understanding the God I have a relationship with is a God of  love & not hate, so for me to see so many so-called Christians say such negative & hateful things about such a tragic situation it really bothers me. We are here to pray for one another, send good vibes to one another not criticize & put down one another simply because their beliefs & or love happens to be different from yours, you can only give in account of your life and no one else. I also want to know why does it seem that homosexuality is the only sin in the world, when clearly it’s not. But from my understanding “Love the person, hate the sin”, isn’t that what the bible says, meaning you show love & caring no matter what!!

Now once again to those who are saying the “terrorist” choose this club simply because it was a “gay” club did you wait on the reports to read that he originally had plans to attack Disney World {I guess because DW is the gayest[happiest] place on Earth} but at the last-minute went into Pulse, a “gay” night club that he was known to frequent? See people are so quick to open their big mouths so they can get their little 5 seconds of fame on a camera or social media without even having all or even half the facts. I’m sure as the weeks go by more & more information will come out about who this guy really was but in the end we will never truly know the real reason as to why he did what he did.

So how about we take our focus off of the killer & place it where it belong; with the families & love ones of everyone involved and on gun control of our nation.

People love who they love it’s no one’s place to judge them or criticize them for that.

 I don’t have a full list but here a few names that I was able to get, I’m working on compiling a full list.

My Prayers Are With These Families & Love Ones……

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CHELLE B.

PETTY..PETTY..PETTY..PETTY

Published May 10, 2016 by chellebooker

 

Ok how many times have you heard the phrase or phrases

“Stop being so petty”

“Oooh you’re just so petty”

“Petty is as petty does”

 Well if you’re anything like me you’ve heard an overuse of the word but also guilty of using it yourself a time or two. Since I know we as people have our own version of what every word in the “urban” dictionary means I decided to just research it for myself and here is what I found….

 1. When someone takes a small subject & blows it out of proportion

..Basically making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 2. Being deliberately nasty or rude for no reason

..Basically being childish.

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 Now with all that being said & reading the meaning of the word I want to say this, it’s bad enough that so grown women are going around being all petty, especially on social media but when you run across a grown man that’s doing it, it’s a major turnoff. There is nothing appealing to a grown woman about a petty man, the same way I’m sure no grown man likes a petty woman & if they do then they both have some growing up to do. If you find yourself acting out of character all because of what someone else has done or is doing then you’re really making a fool out of yourself & not even realizing you’re actually pushing that person away & not drawing them to you, being petty is the worse thing a person can do in a relationship. So while you’re sitting back thinking “Bam I got them”, what you’ve really gotten yourself is a single status.

 If you’re confused as to what I’m talking about let me explain it real quick…..

1. Don’t call me, I won’t call you {petty}

2. Won’t answer my questions in a timely fashion, I’ll ignore you {petty}

3. Won’t like my stuff, I won’t like yours {petty}

4. Your phone is locked I’ll lock mine {petty}

5. Won’t help me, I won’t help you {petty}

 Now back to what I was saying, I hate a petty female but since most females are naturally jealous of other females for no reason it’s kind of to be expected, but I truly despise a petty man/boy. You see I feel men are supposed to be strong, show strength & stand their grounds but when they resort going tit for tat then that becomes a major turnoff & will push a person away from them quicker than cheating will. Changing your actions to become petty all because you think it will draw the person to you is a sure way to get yourself 1st place in the singles line.

 But to those who choose to act petty here’s a little something from me to you….

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CHELLE B.

Helping Another..Burning Bridges

Published May 9, 2016 by chellebooker

I’m sure if you’re reading this at some point in your life you’ve lent a helping hand to someone who needed it, I’m also sure that someone has extended that same courtesy to you so therefore you should truly understand what I’m about to say.

If you’re going to do something or offer help to someone you should just do it without making demands or expecting anything in return, that even includes a simple “Thank You”, you shouldn’t expect someone to jump through hoops just to receive your help if your offer to help is coming from a good place. If you’re going to offer help then it should be between the two of you unless they choose to tell someone of the “blessing” they received from you. When helping someone it should be done from the heart & not from expectancy, you should never throw back in their face what you’ve done for them because in doing so it shows that you may have had an ulterior motive to begin with, which is why you offered it in the first place.

 

Now if someone has ever helped you, if they have ever stepped up when everyone else stepped back & out of the blue you get angry with them because things didn’t go your way or you just decide to cut them off for whatever reason you should at least extend them the common courtesy as to why. You should not leave them in the dark & have them guessing, I’m mean surely they deserve at least that from you.

Bottom Line Is This: Just because you feel you’re in a better place at the moment you never know what each day holds so you may want to be careful of the bridges you burn, once burnt there is no rebuilding. You have to be mindful of the people you help, because no matter how much you may want too it’s not meant for you to help everyone.

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Because That Won’t Happen!!!!!!

CHELLE B.

 

Working Men

Published November 21, 2013 by chellebooker

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I have been hearing this a lot therefore I decided to tackle this topic because to be honest it really makes no sense to me at all….

I don’t seem to understand it when women say “I cheated because he’s always at work, he works to much.”

Now don’t get me wrong I know there should be a balance between work and family but at the same time with the rising cost of everything, is there really a such thing as “working to much”? How can you say they don’t have time to take care of home when if they weren’t working then there couldn’t be a home to take care of. How can you say they work too much and that’s why you cheated when we know if they didn’t work at all or have anything to bring in you would use that as an excuse for cheating also. We know if he couldn’t help at home he would be all types of no good, good for nothing so & so and any other derogatory names you and your “friends” can come up with, you would start playing No Scrubs by TLC while you and your “friends” danced around the livingroom or the home his hard earned money is paying for. You would dance around playing music on a computer or radio that is using electricity that he is working hard to pay for. You would tell him once again “If you were taking care of home I wouldn’t of cheated”, which takes us right back to where we started how can he take care of home when there is no home to take care of.

Bottom Line: You can’t have it both ways either you want a man that will be a man and do what real men, which is work and take care of their families the best they can, or you want a boy to play house with because your son ain’t old enough to play and do the things you need or want done. Now that only leaves you with two choices, let the man work & you be faithful & stop complaining or you get your butt out there, get a job, let him sit home and you pay all the bills then tell me how tired you are at the end of the day and you get home and he wants this and that and everything else he feels he deserves by being your mate.

You don’t have to go out and cheat and use the excuse “He works to much” if you really feel that way then sit down talk to him about how you’re feeling and if you can’t come to a happy medium then maybe you need to find a man, my bad a boy that don’t want to work!

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CHELLE B.

Sex Isn’t Love……Love Isn’t Sex……

Published August 29, 2013 by chellebooker

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Throughout life and over time many have often confused love with sex figuring that the two go hand in hand, I will say that in some aspects they do but only in marriage. Also good sex should never be mistaken for love because you have people these days that enter into sexual relationships so casual and after a few good rounds in the sheets one person may catch feelings that are not being reciprocated by the other person. Most of the time some women feel that if a man have sex with them then that automatically places them in a relationship when I’m sure that never crossed the mans mind. Maybe if people stopped treating sex as a sport or daily activity there would be a lot less confusion going, or better yet if all the facts were laid out in advance it may cut down on some of the foolishness that may follow.

You see love is not always about sex, going out on fancy dates  or showing off for others. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else have or can. It’s not about how many times, if any, that you all have sex. People still don’t understand that once sex enters into a relationship; without marriage things become more complicated, because you no longer are focusing on getting to know each other better and building an air tight bound; your focus is now on the fact of will you have sex when you see that person. Often times people tend to forget that the best type of intimacy doesn’t involve sex at all; it is when you and your mate can just chill and lie back with one another joking and laughing at the most dumbest things you can think of. It’s when you can just lie and hold each other and enjoy each others company with there being no hidden agendas on either persons part.

So if you are still confused about the two sit back and ask yourself this question: Will your relationship stand without sex being the main focus. If your answer is NO or you’re not sure you really have some evaluating to do.

Remember this: Love comes from the heart not any other body part!!

 

CHELLE B.

How would you feel…..

Published July 12, 2013 by chellebooker

In life we all tend to make certain sacrifices for the ones that love us and we love but what happens when those sacrifices a person made for you leave them feeling a certain way. How would you feel knowing that something that puts a smile on your face puts a frown and pain in their heart. How would you feel knowing that something that makes you feel so good, makes them feel so horrible on the inside and secretly they cry. How would you feel that the person you love seems to make all the sacrifices when you won’t even try. How would you feel after you get  what you want from them they are left feeling all empty on the inside. How would you feel that because someone is trying to make you happy they are secretly making themselves sad and depressed. Do you really think your carnal needs and desires should be placed above the feelings of the person you love. How would you feel that in doing that you are breaking the person you love and who loves you heart? Would you feel less than a person and continue to focus on your own needs or would you pay attention to what they want and take their feelings into consideration? Does it matter to you that them pleasing you and trying to make you happy is breaking their heart into a million pieces and making them feel less than a person? I just want to know “How would you feel” knowing you are causing major heartache and misery to the person you say you love?
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CHELLE B.