In life we all tend to make certain sacrifices for the ones that love us and we love but what happens when those sacrifices a person made for you leave them feeling a certain way. How would you feel knowing that something that puts a smile on your face puts a frown and pain in their heart. How would you feel knowing that something that makes you feel so good, makes them feel so horrible on the inside and secretly they cry. How would you feel that the person you love seems to make all the sacrifices when you won’t even try. How would you feel after you get what you want from them they are left feeling all empty on the inside. How would you feel that because someone is trying to make you happy they are secretly making themselves sad and depressed. Do you really think your carnal needs and desires should be placed above the feelings of the person you love. How would you feel that in doing that you are breaking the person you love and who loves you heart? Would you feel less than a person and continue to focus on your own needs or would you pay attention to what they want and take their feelings into consideration? Does it matter to you that them pleasing you and trying to make you happy is breaking their heart into a million pieces and making them feel less than a person? I just want to know “How would you feel” knowing you are causing major heartache and misery to the person you say you love?
We all have heard the saying “Actions speak louder than words” well after careful consideration and after dealing with certain things and being put in certain situations I have come to challenge this age old saying, because if a person is listening to you their actions will mimic exactly what you want at that time, so does that really mean their heart is in it.
I feel that words have more power than you care to believe they have, see to me someone can do whatever it is they have heard you say you want or need done and it not really mean much for the simple fact that they are just going through the motions of what they know you expect and therefore they are going to do what you want or need them to do in order to get what they want and or need from you. To me if I sit and talk to a person I can gauge their feelings and true intentions through their words and words have a better chance at piercing my heart than their actions. Don’t get me wrong I like to receive certain tokens of love and affection, things like “just because” flowers and cards. But to me most of the time actions are just a person going through the motions to fulfill the desire, want or need you have at the present moment or near future for their benefit of getting or obtaining something from you in the process. Understand this I can go out and buy whatever it is I think will make you happy, simply because I have sat and listened to the “words” you have spoken and since I now know that will please you I feel that if I go purchase that item I stand a better chance of getting whatever it is I want from you. See I don’t just want a person doing this and doing that because you feel it’s what I want and you’re thinking about yourself in the process. Sit and talk to me and let me look into your soul through your eyes and hear the words that you speak that way I can tell if you’re being honest and truthful with me. I don’t want to have my judgment of you cloudy by the things that you do for me, let my mind and heart be cloudy by the truth that you speak into my heart and soul. You may can go out and buy me anything I want in the world but none of that will mean a thing to me if you can’t speak the truth to me. See at the end of the day when you are getting to know someone or even after you feel you know them all you have is their word and I truly feel your word should be your bond and if you can’t take a person at their word then their actions are fruitless. Yes I know people can tell lies but understand that actions lie and speak louder than words when you find out the action was a lie. Having someone go through the motions of “pleasing” you only to get to you or something from you. When all you should have done in the beginning was sit down and have a good face to face talk with them so you could look into their eyes and truly hear their words.
So once again I have to ask this question: Do actions really speak louder than words?