As Fathers Day approaches I sit her and think about this day and at times I wish they could change the name because to me a “father” is just a name that is on a child’s birth certificate. If you ask me it should be called Dad’s Day because to me any man can be a “father” but it takes a real man to be a DAD and that includes being a DAD to kids that they didn’t help make but have taken on the job the “father” left behind. You see it takes more than just fertilizing an egg to be considered a DAD, it takes more than just paying support to be considered a DAD, it takes more than occasional phone calls and visits to be considered a DAD. It takes being there where they need you and even when they don’t, it takes showing up for programs, games, recitals, school plays and other important things in their lives, it takes spending time and not just money, it takes paying attention and not just paying tuition. My dad has been deceased for 21 years and I can say there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him or wish he was still here, I can honestly say he was active in my life and was there when I needed him and even when I didn’t. He cared not because he had too but because he wanted to, he was there because it was his job and responsibility to be there. It’s sad because some men truly feel that because they pay a little money here and there that that should be it, well let me inform you that you could have never been more wrong. You see it’s about the quality of time and not quantity of money that spend, any kid and real mother would prefer you to spend time with the child oppose to throwing a few dollars here and there. I want to take this time to commend all the REAL DADS out there who do what’s right by their kid/kids, who are a part of their kids life willing. I want to tip my hat and show respect to the men out there who want to be a DAD and be a part of their kid/kids life but the mama is just to bitter and jealous to allow it, keep your head up and keep praying God can and will turn it around in your favor. Men if you can be a part of your kid/kids life please do so and don’t worry about the woman because it’s not about her, it’s about you and them and the time they desire to spend with you, because I can promise you the older they get the less time they may want to spend with you. Don’t take it personal though it’s just them growing up and coming into their own and at that point in their lives only their “friends” are important to them. Now to all the donors out there let me share this with you all: Not all males are allowed to celebrate or participate in any shape form or fashion in any “Father’s Day” activities, all imposters will be shot on site and any surviving imposters will be shot again. So let me help you out, if you are not an active part of your kid/kids life, if you only see them once or twice a year and there is no hindrance from the mother, if you stay fresh and your child/children look bummie, if they have to call you and you never call them then you are not entitled to participate in this most wonderful sacred day. So with that being said all sperm donors please stay in the house on June 16, 2013!!
Some may think this is a little harsh but it’s not, to me it’s really fair because you have men out there picking up the slack of these slackers and to me those are the ones who deserve to celebrate this day. So if you are a real DAD and you know it please by all means celebrate until your heart is content because you have truly earned this day and title and you do not deserve to have to share it with simple sperm donors.