Good Man, Bad Rap

Good man

So as I sit here and think, a bunch of thoughts have been going through my head and this is the one I chose to write on because it’s long overdue. I want to know at what point did a “good” man become the bad thing to have and a “bad boy” was the one to be with. I have come to notice that guys who treat with women with respect; open the door for her, help her out when she needs it, willing to wait until she is ready for the next level, etc seems to get called a punk, pussy, and or wimp by other guys and some females will look at them as being weak and not man enough. Women grow up and go through life saying they want a good man but when that man comes along all of a sudden he is not what you want; why because his pants fit, he works, take care of his kids, don’t have a rap sheet, and isn’t known to put his hands on a woman. You say “He don’t have enough swag for me”, well how much of that “swag” can you take and pay your bills? What’s wrong with having a man who wants to love and take care of his lady and kids, whether they’re his or not, what’s wrong with having a man who punches a clock oppose to hitting the block? I’m just all confused and for the life of me I can’t seem to understand what the problem is. Why can’t another man look at the “good” man and say “Man you doing good taking care of your family and all”, oppose to calling him a wimp and telling him he’s a sell out because he wants to settle down with one lady and not run the streets or because you call and he tells you he’s cooking dinner for his lady and or family. I would like to know why a “bad boy” has become the one to have, someone who will go upside your head but later apologize because they want some or something, someone who has you, Tracy, Trina, Sally and a few more too. Someone that hits the block instead of the clock. I’m just really confused about the entire situation at hand. Why do good men have to catch a bad rap simple because they are doing what they are supposed to do and not what everyone else is doing. We scream and holler we want one thing but in retrospect we feen for the opposite of what we are saying we want. We look at a good man as being boring and lame, no fun at all. I mean help me out if I’m wrong, what’s so bad about being with a man who is taking care of his family and responsibilities? Why do they have to be labeled simply because they want to do what’s right, why do they have to be labeled because they want to treat a woman like a queen oppose to treating her like a bitch or a late night drive thru? You get a good man but the minute when you get into an argument you get upset because he won’t hit you back, I mean who wants to be hit on. Women scream about a good man but when a good man comes along you push him to the side because he’s not hood enough or “bad” enough. Good men catch a bad rap because they treat women how they should be treated oppose too how most of them are used to being treating, the catch a bad rap because they don’t have a main lady and a side chick, they catch a bad rap because they choose to spend time with their kids oppose to running the streets and chasing hoes. Good men catch a bad rap because they would rather talk then fuss, they would rather make love oppose to fuck, they would rather stimulate your mind oppose to your body. Good men catch a bad rap simply because they are A REAL MAN, someone who will love and not hurt, comfort and not criticize, protect not harm, provide not take away from, lift up not pull down.
So once again I say if anyone has the answer to this question please by all means share it with me.


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